Break ups!
there's a new line for break up now...it is.."Its not you..its me...Am not good enuf for you...you deserve better than this" this line is used by the instigator to make the breakee feel good...now whatever happens..whenever a relationship heads towards the break up zone...one person really feels bad abut it...It hurts! period.
the break up being mutual is another thing to argue abut..but I think if both the guy and the gal lose interest in the relationship(which often happens..as we see so many breakups..) it is better to part ways healthily...and u can be friends or enemies after that..u can always decide upon that..but remember its a small world...so a little civility and politeness when u run into each other around the corner....wudnt hurt u. This is as good as it gets..coz everyone wud dream of a mutual break up..coz there is no awkwardness hanging in the air...
If its a one sided relationship .....it is better to move on. If u wanna feel miserable and waste your life..hey..thas ur choice..dont blame the other person who has made it clear that she/he doesnt see the relationship goin newhere and has put an end to it.
Being friends after the break up is clearly awkward sometimes..k..most of the time....but if u were already good friends and then u take the relationship to the next level..as everyone says...a good friend makes a good companion for life....one fine day...u break up with this soulmate...now......u lose everything... a damn good friend and a wonderful companion..whom now u loathe to the extent that u wud rather see them burn to death in the deep corners of hell!!!now thas another topic to debate ....some people say that...u cannot be friends with ur friend again once u have taken the relationship to the next level..this love that blossoms...It is usually a spur of the moment thing and then later on when u do break up..u regret it...or well if it really works..nothing can get better than that! People say ur ego is hurt..thas y...u dont wanna really be friends with the instigator again...did u ever think tht u place so much trust in the other person and when they do this to u..i think its more than the ego ths hurt..did u ever think abut that?
I personally feel that in ur teens this love thing is nothing but jus plain infatuation..and well when u do grow up and then get outta these crushes and infatuations...its true love most of the time..but well being human..we tend to go wayward sometimes and we start to lose interest...also there is the pressure of the family...(the background, the race,the religion of the gal/guy is very important!). Mostly when u start working..and start seein some bucks..u tend to think abut ur future..which is very natural..and then there is this gal/guy at work who shows some genuine interest in you..u two spend a lotta time together..and then...well one fine day..u decide to spend ur life together...sounds like a fairy tale doesnt it?? aaaaannnnnnnn wrong!! most of the times..they break up..after sometime..and the ones that carryon are good..they make it work...its seriously advised to tread ur steps cautiously around the thing called love..coz u never knw whom u mite hurt..or who mite hurt u....well u cant live with that constantly...but yet..u learn to live with it...
then there is the rebound...after the break up...u dont really getover the previous person..and then since u r hurt..u r on the warpath..and end up breaking the rebound persons heart!
Oh my God! this is a crazy path to take..i think am better off being single!! naa..jus kidding!!
The best way to handle a break up mutual or not mutual... would be to move on. Dont hold on to it and make ur life miserable. Lettin go is not easy..i know ,but if u want ur life back u better let go..if its urs..its gonna come back to u...u dont have to be this sacrificing sage to wish him/her well and help him/her out till he/she gets married..or even after that...jus be a normal person..bid ur goodbyes and move on. may be he/she is not right for you and u found that really early. consider urself lucky...and well as they say..All good things have to come to an end!! who knows...u mite meet ur Mr/Ms.Right very soon..and well u mite go thru these breakups...again..
but hey..then again...thats life aint it?
Think abut it!! and prepare to be surprised!!
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Your best post by long :) The issue is very pertinent and I have seen a lot of such instances..(not to mention ...er...)
"u cannot be friends with ur friend again once u have taken the relationship to the next level"
well, I would say it happens, not just because of the ego reasons u have cited. I would love to know the real reason behind it, but some people are so uncomforatable that they want to avoid the person whom they had loved (or claim to have loved). And most of the times, the initiator blatantly asks the victim to stop any form of contact with them. If the victim is confused and wants to re-generate the friendship, its labeled as stalking and cursed. This is what causes the pain and agony...of losing one good friend in life and wishing that it would have been nicer had it just been friendship.
The same person who talks about being friends for life, regardless of marriage to whoever, will force you to give up communication with them. With a broken heart (love and friendship gone in one go), the victim tries to hide the feelings in the heart and move on.. whats broken cannot be repaired in this case, and the memories are locked up in a corner room, trying best to avoid venturing anywhere close to it. Even if we chance upon the person, avoidance is the best course, else you will end up having even more pain or irritation.
And life moves on...without that special one...
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